Too often we get stuck on the path to growth because we lose motivation because we think we’re making too many mistakes. A famous psychologist and trainer Mgr. Sylvia Langerman, Ph.D., PCC claims that “it’s also wrong to focus too much on our mistakes.” How can we distinguish when a mistake is really wrong and when it is just a process through which we grow? Read and you will find out.
I’m sure you’ve heard the familiar phrase: “A mistake repeated many times is a decision.” So it might be a decision about how we view each other. Anyway, before we diagnose ourselves with a number of mistakes and fall into remorse or self-blame, we try to realize in our mistakes whether we are currently in the learning stage. Are we aware of everything we don’t know yet? Isn’t it just a process we grow through? Let’s find out together.
1. Don’t focus on your mistakes and problems
Error itself is a relative thing. One’s perceptions of one’s own mistakes can affect our general emotional state and at the same time our satisfaction. Silvia claims: “If we focus on our mistakes, we will have no chance to grow or move forward. We will constantly remember what we do not know, what we are weak and insufficient…” This way of perceiving is destructive. It’s like I’m your worst teacher.
If you focus on the problem or your mistakes, you will only solve these problems and errors. However, if you focus on a solution, you will focus on changing for the better! Specifically, our state of mind, and thus our actions, are strongly conditioned by how we talk to each other and how we perceive. If we focus on scarcity, our actions will go in the same direction. instead of asking “How did this problem start?” Try asking a question “What will help me solve this problem?”.
2. Choose who you listen to very carefully
Do you have people around you who only tell you what you don’t do well at every opportunity? How do you hear that? Have you ever noticed how it affects you? Follow this simple rule: “Never criticize someone you will never go to for advice.”.
Think about who is criticizing you and in what respect. vow to acknowledge in your heart only such criticism that comes from someone else in the area or. Smarter than you. If we follow this rule, something strange will happen. when? We will receive minimal cash. Our coach commented on this move: “If someone were in the area we are talking about further than we are, they would know exactly how long we had to go ourselves to get to where we are now. The man simply wouldn’t dare criticize us.” For example, if someone is successful in business, they can be a useful business mentor for us.
However, always take notes. If it is convenient, take what you can of it, but do not keep it negative, but what moves you forward.
3. Be objective and decide what you are really good at
In this step, we must manage a healthy, constructive and transformative self-reflection. Be the one to name your flaws and try to find a way to eliminate them. At the same time, find out what you’re good at and how to get the most out of it. Be yourself a coach! Perhaps you are more self-centered, but at the same time objective and growth-oriented. why? Because if we lack healthy self-reflection, we risk not growing, because we gradually begin to lose motivation to improve (because improvement is an endless process). “But if someone thinks they’re perfect, they don’t need to grow up and may have a distorted perception of themselves.” Sylvia explains in her book Success You You.
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4. Be your hero and name what you want to improve
“One of my clients”Sylvia says, “She told me in a training session that she found herself in a situation where she lost her home with two young children and had nowhere to go. She decided to go back to her parents and found a new job. She thought she could handle it, even though she cried from fatigue every night. In time, she found A new apartment and started her own business. She considered herself the greatest heroine in the world when she decided to resist her husband and live the life she wanted.” So what path did this customer take? I made a decision. you believed. It worked – it was active. She allowed herself to cry. She did not go away and went behind her. These qualities are also a guide to success.
Sure, you made many mistakes on your trip, but to be honest, you definitely don’t regret it. Could these errors be the information that pushed you forward? Try to remember the “hero story” now. What have you done in the past to achieve this? How did you do that? Can you apply a similar process now while you continue to grow?
5. Set your goal and follow it boldly!
It is good to be aware of our shortcomings, but try not to think too much about them but rather try to control the next change. It is a conscious decision that leads us to action and these lead to our success. When setting your goal, it is important to ask yourself: “What does success mean to us?” This is what the state has to be for us to be able to call ourselves a success. You don’t have to set a big goal right away. Feel free to start with the little ones and achieve them step by step.
When we go for success, there is no red carpet on this road, on the contrary, the part is complicated or tiring and oftentimes we are left with disapproval. Remember that if you decide to succeed, the question is not whether or not you want it, but when and how. If we make that decision consciously, it doesn’t matter how many mistakes we make. “We simply knew that back then. We will make mistakes on our way to success. It’s okay. But most importantly, we need to learn from them and not repeat them over and over again.” Submitted by Sylvia Langermann.
6. Take the mistakes made
So no matter what we do, whatever we do, even if we try very hard, it is very likely that we will make at least a small mistake. Let’s rely on it and try to catch it and use it perfectly to our advantage. how?
Sylvia advises: “We just learned that back then. If we don’t learn from mistakes, these notes don’t do us any good. But if we do learn, they can be a useful gift for us.” Sylvia is a coach whose job is to create awareness in people of what this error can teach them, respectively. Comments, what information they were able to obtain thanks to it and how they can continue to work with this information. Sylvia will ask: “What can you do better now than before and where can you go?“So the effective way to find out is to train, because you know better.
Let’s not be afraid to make mistakes, but not the same! Let’s learn from them and walk harder.
Author: Ing. Fanny Belkova, strength training
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